The above picture illustrates a couple in bed,one is on the computer, while the other one is seemingly frustrated. FIRST MISTAKE. After viewing a video that was shared throughout my newsfeed and hearing my fiance calmly tell me how my cell phone can be a distraction and to put it away so we can actually enjoy each other, it really opened my eyes.
One day, I made a decision when going out to eat with my mom to turn my cell phone off and put it in my purse. Can I tell you that was the best dinner I had with my mom in a while? It saddened me though. Everyone that I looked at in the restaurant had their phones out, thumbing through old text messages or showing interest in what others are doing at the time. And sometimes, both people were at the table looking at their phones…YIKES.
We are too busy concerned with what other people are doing in the social media world, that we tend to forget to enjoy the real world. The best moments I have with my fiance and family is when I don’t have a phone. I know some people may say hat they are “shut off from the world.” That statement makes me laugh. You are not shut off from the world at all, in fact, you are living in the world, in that moment, and you get to enjoy what life has to offer. The social media “world” is fake! People do not have to be real on social media. Seriously, it is an illusion, and we get caught up in it thinking why can’t I have a life like that, instead of appreciating and enjoying YOUR life.
My challenge: See how much more you can enjoy your life and yourself without your cell phone for the day. Maybe that’s a stretch for some. So how about this? Whenever you are around people, family, your boyfriend, fiance, DOG for goodness sake, put your cell phone down and live in that moment. You are not missing anything, believe me. Instead of taking time to scroll through pictures or your newsfeed, take the time to love, care, and appreciate one another. Take the time to appreciate your life.
Don’t let a falsified world ruin your relationships or sense of self, or even your confidence. It is okay if people don’t know what you are doing for a few hours or days, and it’s also okay if you don’t know what other people are doing. The only people you need to be connected to are the ones you love. That’s it.
So, again, put your phone done, and focus on the small things in life.